UNITY
NINE | UNITY
At their best, Nines are great listeners, able to see other's points of view and are natural mediators and able to take in many perspectives and see the big picture. Easy-going and self-effacing, they want to keep the peace while avoiding feelings of interpersonal conflict. Their focus of attention tends to go towards understanding other's points of view. When confronted, they withdraw and procrastinate while allowing enough time to let problems resolve themselves.
Their challenge is to know what they want, set clear goals and markers along the way. A solid system of accountability can support the Nine to maintain their momentum. We can support the Nines in our lives by encouraging them to speak up for themselves and voice their needs and wants. In conflict, Nines want respect for seeing all sides of a given situation; be sure to give them enough time to process their feelings and thoughts without pressure.
Strengths: Inclusive, diplomatic, good listener
Challenges: stubborn, ambivalent, self-forgetful
Speaking Style: Inclusive and welcoming at their best. Nines may have trouble getting to the point.
Basic Proposition
The original blissful state of unconditional love and union, in which everyone belongs equally, goes into the background in a world that Type Nines perceive makes them unimportant or has them blend in. Nines come to believe that, as a substitute for their own worth, they can gain belonging and comfort by attending to and merging with others and by dispersing energy into substitute objects. Concurrently, Nines develop inertia (self-forgetting) about their own priorities and limits. Their attention naturally goes to others’ and environmental claims made upon them. Narcotization glues the structure together by helping you to “numb out” and keep life comfortable. Type Nines’ ultimate concern or fear is being dismissed, not worth keeping, or, experientially speaking, annihilated. As compensation, Type Nines sometimes control by becoming stubborn (dug in), resistant, intractable, diverted into inessentials, going along and resenting it, or seeming to go along and not, and avoiding conflict and decisions.
Basic Propositions were written by Dr. David Daniels, M.D.